So today my mom was telling me a story that really bothered me... Well I am pretty sure it would bother anyone who had a heart or brain... It really made me ask myself the question that I ask myself way to often... Why do bad things happen to good people?
I know plenty of people that are amazingly good hearted people who have had more than their share of bad luck! It really isn't fair!!! I don't understand. It just seems logical that if you are a good person who lives by a good moral code, that you shouldn't suffer from bad things... Unfortunately this isn't the way things work...
So my mom works in an office where they are putting in new homes after the Fallbrook fire destroyed most of the area. A friend of my moms that already lives there has had a house guest for a few days and brought her by the office to meet my mom... (My mom described her as being in her late 50's early 60's dressed cute with a cute baseball cap.) She inquired about a place and my mom asked her, "will it just be you living here?" the woman responded with a "yes". Her friend then told my mom "she is a cancer survivor who has just finished her last treatement". This statement brought on the whole story of how this amazing woman has come to look for a new residence.
Apparently this woman was diagnosed with breast cancer, lost both of her breasts and has gone through lots of treatment. A few Saturdays ago, she and her husband were sitting at home after her very last treatment talking about how exciting it was that she was to be able to grow her hair out again and get implants so that she would have breasts again... They both talked about how exciting it was going to be for her to see herself as beautiful again.
The very next day, her husband comes home and tells her that he is tired of her "cancer" and he can't deal with it anymore. He then proceeds to kick her out of her own home where she has lived with her husband for the past 40 years. He doesn't give her any of their money (he has a lot) and boots her out with nowhere to go.
SERIOUSLY?!! Who does that? Now this poor woman has to get a lawyer just to fight to have enough of her own money to buy a place where she will now live alone.
My first reaction was "What a freakin douchebag!"
My second reaction is, "lucky her". If he was the kind of person who was inconvenienced by his wife cancer, then she is better off without him...
My third thought is, "this woman is now left to live alone after 40 something years"
I want to hug this woman and tell her that things will be okay...
My mom and the two woman sat there and had a good cry together...
I really don't understand how a person can be that cold... I know things like this happen all the time but come on!!! Really? Hasn't this lady suffered and overcome enough? Aren't there plenty of horrible and more deserving people out there that this could have happened to? It just doesn't seem fair! So many serial kills, rapists, etc have lived long lives and died of natural causes, why can't this woman just enjoy beating cancer with her loving husband? UGHHHHHH!
I don't get it!
5 years ago
That's awful!! Well put....she is better off without him. I can't ever understand how it seems like the "good" people have all the bad things happen where the people that are shady & crappy seem to live without the extra headaches.
ReplyDeleteI asked myself this same question for so long. My only answer is that we are given the tougher road because we are strong and can handle it. Can you imagine how often I asked myself why me? Why did I get cancer? I was young, newly married, just bought our first home, I was in the best place in my life and bam, I got cancer. I don't smoke, I don't drink but I still got the big C! My only answer was it was because I was able to handle it. My other answer is so that I one day would be able to help others and do something good with my life. I'm guessing if I had never gotten cancer I would probably not do what I do today and volunteer for ACS.
ReplyDeleteMy first night after I found out I had cancer I couldn't close my eyes with the fear that I would not wake up. I also thought of my husband Mark who married me 11 months earlier. We were young and I didn't want him to have to care for a sick wife. I told him I would so understand if he left, that he didn't sign up for this. He looked at me like I was crazy and said don't you remember our vows? I feel so lucky he stuck with me and I can't imagine anyone taking the other option. Like you said, she's probably better off, but how sad for her. She will become a stronger person because of this, just needs people to help her get through such a rough spot. What can we do to help her?
sad, sad, sad, sad story! :( this breaks my heart.
ReplyDeletekellee you need to help her find a doggy companion once she's in her own home! :)
Tisha